Letter to my guy friend/s

Dear Friend

Hey Bro,

Always know, my dear friend, that for now, I will treat you as my brother. Even though I “feel” that I “like” you, I also know, by learned experiences, that these are unreliable indicators for a possible relationship.

You see, as much as I would want/feel/dream/hope/pray for us to be in a relationship, unless it’s spearheaded by God and directly and surely heading for marriage, then I wouldn’t bother putting up with us or taking this to a higher level. Not anymore. I’m tired with that trying and experimenting in relationships. I’m tired of break-ups and broken relationships. Pondering about them, I seemed to have wasted bits of my self to the past guys who didn’t take me seriously.

Also, I’m tired of writing my own love story/ies because I screw it all over with my unwanted attitudes and high unreachable expectations. To be honest, I’m tired and ashamed of leading any guy on with my vague and ambiguous sweet messages. I’m tired of being flattered by any guy just for him to get my “heart”. All vanities.

But you see, I want you to know what I want. You know what I would ask for a man right now for him to be suitable for me?

I want him to pursue a relationship with the greatest Author of all love stories. I want him to grow holistically, first, in being him. I want him to be sure of himself, of who he is, of what he wants in life, of being him. I want him to be complete, without me. Yes, without me. I want him to be someone who is whole, not incomplete. And I do know, that no one, not even me, could complete anybody. I want him to be faithful in prayers, with his family, with his dreams and aspirations and most of all, with His walk with Jesus. I want him to be loyal to God and to the Scriptures, to his family and to his values. I want a man of character and please, not of facades.

I want you to fix up your acts ahead by praying for them or even by asking your brothers in your small group to pray for you and help  you with that, and maybe, just maybe, if by God’s grace and in His time, we could talk about how God’s grace and love has been so abundant in our broken lives. I want you be passionate with Jesus so you can be like him, more and more, and because then and there, I wouldn’t need to worry about you having other idols like pornography, fornication, addictions and other things.

And these things I am requesting may take long. But here’s the deal, I just want us to trust in God’s timing and not in our “feelings”. I want us to be wise and be serious about relationships that can lead to marriage.

I just want our friendship (and maybe the next level of that)  just be centered on a firm foundation what will not be shaken and would not easily crumble. I definitely desire our relationship to be based on Jesus.

Then maybe, he can pursue God first because I already surrendered all my heart’s desire in Him. Then maybe, he can pray and fast to God, before he can ask me to be his girlfriend.

So as for now, my dear friend,

I want to savor our friendship which is based on Jesus.

Waiting Patiently,

Sis

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First Jog in 2015

This morning, I just had my first jog ever in the century. Just Kidding. First in the year 2015. Yes, I’ll mark it, January 21, 2015 🙂

And to be honest, for the past weeks and even, past months (December, November), I preferred the company of my bed than making my move through the cold morning.

But now, after being desperate for the grasp and inhalation of air, I definitely began to start appreciating this taken-for-granted mixture around us called air.

I appreciate God for impressing to my being, the itch to move my body and sweat and the thirst for cold morning air. And I appreciate His glorious nature and their greenness and rhythmic chirps.

I also appreciate one of my best friends in college, who was my jogging buddy, for  encouraging me to jog again. I think she wasn’t aware of it when we communicated yesterday.

On which foundation is YOUR IDENTIY based on?

On which foundation is your identity based on?

Perhaps, this is the question that people usually would unlikely want to hear, baffle about, even ponder on and most of all answer. 

  • Is YOUR IDENTITY based on who you say you are, what other people: friends and family, tell about you?
  • Is YOUR IDENTITY based on how you look? what the weighing scale or the height measuring device says?
  • Is YOUR IDENTITY based on how you feel? How you feel about  your self? towards the opposite sex? towards the same sex?
  • Is YOUR IDENTITY based on the degree or course your taking in the university? Is it wrapped around that license you have indicating that you’re a professional and that you’ve passed your board exam?
  • Is YOUR IDENTITY based on whether you are currently in a relationship or you are currently single?
  • Is YOUR IDENTITY based on your religion or belief system or whether you even have one or not?
  • Is YOUR IDENTITY based on whether you are currently employed, jobless or unemployed?
  • Or for this age of technology, is YOUR IDENTITY based on the number of likes, shares, hearts, favorites, pins and whatnot in your facebook, instagram, twitter, pinterest and what other social media that exists?

I am asking these questions because I myself have asked them to myself. Bluntly writing about these, I confess that I am not spared with these trick-or-treat questions. Because as I am greatly tempted to answer YES to even just one of this, I am aware of the dangers and risks involved in basing your FOUNDATION OF THE IDENTITY to anything but the temporal, inconsistent and weak.

An ethereal issue, my identity is something that I take seriously. Since, many times have I found my identity placed on my grades in school, or on my reputation with my friends, or what the teachers would say about me, or on my ex-boyfriend, or on my license, or on my status of being unemployed or of being single, or on the number of likes on my current facebook status, or whatever. And this, I have learned and happily realized, won’t get me anywhere but feel shaky and insecure. Thus, I started with the pursuit of my identity, which is actually a process even if you already know Who you’re identity is.

To my pursuit of who I really am and my purpose in life, I have come to know, with clarity, my identity, during Victory Weekend (A graduation gift by God). Then and there, I have found who I am on a solid foundation (2 Timothy 2:19).

I thank God because my identity isn’t based on anything else, but on Jesus alone and what He did on the cross 2000 plus years ago. I thank God because I don’t have to waste any more of my time proving myself to anyone at all in this temporary world. I thank God because I don’t need to put up a facade of being this and that, but that, I can just be who I am because I know where my identity and security springs from. And they are definitely from me alone nor from earthlings.

  • I am a child of God (John 1:12)
  • I am His daughter, made in the image and likeness of Him (Gen 1:27)
  • I am made fearfully, wonderfully and thoughtfully (Ps139:13-18)
  • I am a temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Cor 6:19-20)
  • I am called to honor God above all else (Exodus 20:3) and make disciples (Matthew 28:19-20)

There are a lot more! Gleefully, I know I wouldn’t run out of identity as I am in Christ.

Here are more of my personal identity in Christ: https://www.ficm.org/handy-links/

So you there, know what you are called for and who you really are. And if you’re single, it’s the best season to discover the greatness God has instilled in you. 🙂

Ancient yet Pratical Leadership Tips: Principles of the Way of the Shepherd

The Way of the Shepherd

  1. Know the Condition of Your Flock
    • Follow the status of your people as well as the status of the work.
    • Get to know your flock, one sheep at a time.
    • Engage your people on a regular basis.
    • Keep your eyes and ears open, question, and follow through.
  2. Discover the Shape of Your Sheep
    • Your choice of sheep can make flock management easier or harder
    • Start with healthy sheep, or you’ll inherit someone else’s problems.
    • Know the SHAPE of y our sheep to make sure they’re in the right fold
  3. Help Your Sheep Identify with You
    • Build trust with y our followers by modeling authenticity, integrity and compassion.
    • Set high standards of performance.
    • Relentlessly communicate  your values and sense of mission.
    • Define the cause for your people and tell them where they fit in.
    • Remember that great leadership isn’t just professional, it’s personal/
  4. Make Your Pasture a Safe Place
    • Keep your people well informed.
    • Infuse every position with importance.
    • Cull chronic instigators from the flock.
    • Regularly rotate the sheep to fresh pastures.
    • Reassure the sheep by staying visible
    • Don’t give problems time to fester.
  5. The Staff of Direction
    • Know where you’re going, get out in front, and keep your flock on the move.
    • When directing, use persuasion rather than coercion.
    • Give your people freedom of movement, but make sure they know where the fence line is. Don’t confuse boundaries with bridles!
    • When your people get in trouble, go and get them out.
    • Remind your people that failure isn’t fatal.
  6. The Rod of Correction
    • Protect: Stand in the gap and fight for your sheep.
    • Correct: Approach discipline as a teaching opportunity.
    • Inspect: Regularly inquire about your people’s progress.
  7. The Heart of the Shepherd
    • Great leadership is a lifestyle, not a technique.
    • Every day you have to decide who’s going to pay for your leadership -you or your people.
    • Most of all, have a heart for your sheep.

SOURCE: The Way of the Shepherd: 7 Ancient Secrets to Managing Productive People by Dr. Kevin Leman and William Pentak

Battlecry

A day before the set Prayer and Fasting, and here the christian faith is already challenged by the attacks of the enemy.

Unwanted Reality of the Believer

Was once of the world (Colossians 1:21), the believer is bombarded with the attacks of the enemy as it tries to get her back to the world with all it’s lies, lusts, pathetic desires, bright and shining temptations, empty promises of the temporal pleasures. Undeniably, the magnetic pull back to the world is the works of the pursuit of the enemy (Exodus 15:9:10). It masks with its temptations to the pressures and expectations of the world, to the current fad, to pulling you to keep on scrolling on the news feed of any social media existing, to the injected lustful thoughts, past sins (like 2 years ago or 2 minutes ago). The attacks are real. The believer is aware of that. She feels the spread of the negativity manifest.

Spiritual Warfare

Signs of enemy’s attacks spiritually:

  • Self-gratifying and unpleasant attitude towards others
  • Doubts on the Existence
  • Negative feelings and insecurities
  • Physical weakness

Few as they are, the greater their impact. They waver the faith that has been instilled within. They try to uproot from the foundation of Truth to bring back to the filthy world. They are devastating attacks that leave the subject helpless and doubting. Definitely tempted, the believer feels the magnetic pull of the temporary pleasures of the world once more. Once more, she is tempted. She is on the brink of giving up… Until..

The Importance of Being Firmly Rooted (Equipped)

Feeling the mighty King’s embrace, she knows that going back to what it was before won’t do her any good, even indulging to the temporary pleasures of the world. The world, or these present troubles, are nothing compared, are not worthy to the glory of what He has to offer in His Kingdom. (Romans 8:18). She clings to the beauty of the truth which brings relief and peace that comes not of this world but from where God has left for her (John 14:27). She decides to love the Truth, who is God Himself (John 1).

Conclusion

Even with this ongoing spiritual battle, she believes, claims and declares God has already won the victory (John 16:33). She is relieved for He has overcome the world, she is dead to sin and at the same time, alive in Christ (Romans 6:11). She returns to loving and beholding the Truth, to praying incessantly for she can’t do it alone no more… and she declares and claims the peace that Jesus has left for His believers, this peace that transcends all understanding, this peace that dissolves the bullets mentioned above. (Philippians 4:7).

Thank You Jesus. The victory is won. You have won it all for me. :’) And all I need to do, is to hold on to You, with cheerful endurance.

Waiting Smoothly

As the traffic flowed smoothly, I can’t help but reckon that I will be way too earlier than expected. Appointed at 1PM, my client interview turned out to be a 2-hour wait as I arrived at the office one hour earlier plus another hour in waiting for the client.

Honestly, I am the kind of person who doesn’t need or desire to be too early nor too late. I am the person to value my arrival on the dot,more or less. As a student for 21 years, I seemed to have mastered this attitude yet sometimes, bordering a few minutes late or early.

Yet, since being part of a workforce requires the employed to respect the employers’ and customers’ time therefore, the employed must arrive earlier than expected.

I guess, I shouldn’t have mumbled inside of my mind about being way too early. In fact, I didn’t linger on the complaining. I decided to be thankful; At Robinsons Cybergate,  I got to eat lunch first and afterwards, I lazed towards the office. Thirty minutes before the schedule, I decided to arrive at the building. Waiting for another hour, I prepped and prayed inside the Classically Red Phone Booth for the interview with the Client, who is currently in Australia. (Take note how I used the term: decide. It was the very timely application of patience while in the waiting situation. It’s important to be Proactive .)

The last time we had a schedule, he was certainly considerate to dismiss me as he deemed that I have wasted my time waiting. But then, I was actually fine and still, a reschedule was done.

Finally, this afternoon, the interview was done. Indeed, Australians are nice people.

After him getting to know about my personal life, I was dismissed ten minutes later. Whatever feedback, I will be grateful still for this experience.

PS. I’ve seen at least 10 Volkswagen Beetles with the smooth traffic flow in the City. Happy 2015!